It’s really incredibly funny how the world works. You think (or maybe realise) that it’s all perfect and gung-ho, when a thought begins to consume you, eat onto you till you have no choice but to confront it. And usually, you as a person lose that confrontation. Nothing good ever comes out of such a confrontation.
Basically speaking, we are singles. Everyman for himself. That`s how we survive in cutthroat competition, something that evolved with us so that we always exceed expectations, break through the glass ceiling. But yet, we also have evolved to create lifelong partnerships, sort of like a backup system where we can derive and give support and strength. The problems arise when the backup system fails when the main system is functioning properly, defeating the entire purpose of such a system. The backup system usually fails because of one or more from an entire list of reasons, from not devoting time to its care to finding another (farce) backup system, which we are led to believe that it is better than the original.
The question that races through the mind right now is how does the failing of the backup system affect you and those dependent on you? Can you fight it? And can you do something about it?
Maybe you can, but then something that comes up becomes a compromise, and truth be told, while some may be willing to settle with a compromise, most aren’t. A compromise is exactly what it is, not the best, a creaky rusty piece of social construct, which does more harm than good. What do you do in such a situation? Seek out better worlds or try your best and secure the world you are already living, which may but be an illusion.
Looking at both separately, we may need to set up a balance, but when others are considered, people with their own opinions, choices and perceptions, the problem becomes magnanimous. Huge enough to give up on the thought and think “will face it when it happens” ... but then, if we leave everything for the future, what will we do in the present? If you leave it for the future, you will most probably end up making a mess of the entire thing at that time.
The most common response to the backup system failing is shrugging and finding some really consuming task that takes your mind off things, which is the middle ground, again a compromise.
But If you must choose, what will you choose?
(*Ref- Backup system – Home, Hearth and Family.)
If the backup system were the main system, and the main system failed without a backup system, wouldn't u at the very worst, go insane?
ReplyDeleteFamily is the back up system, its the reason u survive in the main system. But it can never become the main system, coz its in a way, a symbiotic relationship.
On where you would derive happiness from, ideally the answer should be both. But idealism is a fictional phenomena.
Now your backup system is a constant and it's forever your backup.
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